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Hi there, we are Tom and Hillary! Thank you for your interest in our story and for taking the time to get to know us. We welcome the opportunity to share our lives with you on this courageous journey.
Our story began in early 2016 on the dating app OkCupid! Hillary was moving back to Indiana and looking for the perfect match. As luck would have it, Tom was looking too. We exchanged messages, and the spark ignited. Little did we know, we both attended Indiana University at the same time and were two weeks apart in age.
We chatted over text and talked on the phone frequently. Tom had been working the second shift at the time, so our first date was unique. We met at a Steak N’ Shake since there weren’t many places open past midnight. One date turned into the next, and we were married on September 17, 2017.
We had discussed our future early on and knew it included children; having a family was something we always saw for ourselves. We tried to conceive on our own for a year and then resorted to a fertility clinic with multiple IVF attempts. We feel in our hearts that we are meant to be parents. We know that life’s most difficult challenges can be the most rewarding and bring the greatest blessings, and we continue our adoption journey knowing this is God’s plan for us.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
A summer season isn't official until we've made a trip to the State Fair. Every summer Tom and I visit the Indiana State Fair to experience the nostalgia of fair foods, animals, and vendors. We look forward to sharing this experience with our future child to create memories for years to come. This year's stop wasn't complete until we had an Elephant Ear.
We love having a large yard to enjoy nature and scenery but it also requires a certain amount of upkeep as well. We recently purchased a John Deere riding mower to cut down time mowing grass. Tom is pretty proud of his mowing skills and Hillary has taken up mulching and weeding. In the fall we both help out with the raking, blowing and mulching of leaves that our beautiful tree line provides. We look forward to sharing the obseravations we have of chipmunks, squirrels, deer, groundhogs, and other wildlife that visit our yard with our child.
As I get older I find new hobbies that I never imagined myself having when I was younger. When I was little my dad was the handyman and fixer of all household things. He has lots of tools and equipment in the basement to accomplish any task. While I didn't have much appreciation for his repairs during my youth, I recently found interest in trying to recreate some artwork I've been admiring on Etsy and Pinterest. I have been YouTubing videos for geometric wood art and my dad showed me the process of using a mitre saw to make 45 degree cuts to arrange planks of lattice wood. After getting the shape created and learning how to secure the wood with a nail gun I found some wood stains of lighter and darker colors as well as some paint to assemble the soon to be masterpiece. It's experiences like these where I see life come full circle. Having a dad who fixed and created things gave me the confidence to try a project like this and it's been fun working with him in his basement. More than anything I enjoy spending time with him and learning from him. Projects like...
Everything's bigger in Texas! Tom and I took a road trip to several cities in the south this summer and enjoyed life in the Lone Star State. We started out by stopping in Little Rock to visit one of Hillary's college friends from Indiana University. We walked around the River District with her friend and her husband and dog reminiscing about how much has changed in our lives since living in Bloomington, IN. The next day we headed to Houston where we stayed at the cutest Airbnb with tree swings and a gorgeous Live Oak tree. While we had fun relaxing in the swings, we can only imagine how much fun our future child would have enjoyed them. Houston had plenty of culture for us to experience. We did lots of walking around the Hermann Park Conservatory and rode in paddleboats. Our next stop was to the Minute Maid Park for a Houston Astros Baseball game. Tom loves baseball and can't wait to teach his future child everything he knows. We left Houston and traveled to Waco so Hillary could tour the Magnolia Market and Silos created by Chip and Joanna Gaines who are featured in the show Fixer Upper...
We celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary at Anthony's Chophouse in downtown Carmel, IN. Last year we had dinner at Savor, a restaurant in the same area and decided Anthony's was next on our list of places to celebrate. Everything was amazing. We enjoyed the scenic views from the second story overlooking the Monon Trail. Tom and I love to walk and bike on the Monon Trail and can't wait to take our future child to experience all it has to offer. Downtown Carmel has really grown with activities for families and we envision spending time outside going to festivals, playing games, dining and enjoying all there is cherish with our child someday.
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